Showing posts with label extended family. Show all posts
Showing posts with label extended family. Show all posts

Friday, January 27, 2012

Where credit is due

Photo credit: Notre Dame Right to Life
 Patrick called home yesterday. It was our first chance to talk after his return from Monday's March for Life in Washington, D.C.  He had a great trip.

So much so that he wasn't even all that disappointed to hear that our next home will likely be in the D.C. area. This  is not definite by any stretch of the imagination; we are just running out of time on other options, and John hasn't heard from anyplace-yet. But as much as that is always on my mind, it isn't the subject of this post, so...

Notre Dame, Patrick reported, took seven busloads of students and faculty to the march.  Seven!  He had a chance to see an old Misawa friend one day there. He visited museums, prayed at the Basilica of the Immaculate Conception, and stopped by to see my brother and his wife, who are "dorm parents" in the honors dorm on the Catholic University of America campus. He spent most of the weekend with a couple of guys from his architecture program, and the three of them also dropped by the arkie studio while they were on the CUA campus to meet their competition compatriots.

Photo credit: Notre Dame Right to Life

The next day they and more than 300 others from Notre Dame joined the March for Life.

Photo credit: Notre Dame Right to Life

This article gives more details. If their information is correct, Notre Dame had more people there than any other college or university. To be fair, we're not talking about percentages. Christendom College, of Front Royal, VA, would win that contest. They cancel classes and bring their entire student body every year. But when you consider that the Notre Dame trip involves getting excused from classes, taking two overnight bus rides and sleeping in a parish hall,

Photo credit: Notre Dame Right to Life
it's pretty impressive to see such a large number from ND.  I'm grateful to the Notre Dame Center for Ethics and Culture Fund to Protect Human Life for making this possible for Patrick and so many other ND students.

The administration gets a lot wrong with regard to being a Catholic beacon in our dark culture, but the Notre Dame Center for Ethics and Culture is making sure that on the issue of life, they are getting things very right.

Deo gratias.

Thursday, March 18, 2010

Dear Grandma,


Thank you for our birthday and St. Valentine's Day presents. We thought you would like to see how we spent them.



Mom helped us find the best price and order some block sets online. There were a lot of choices, and we both carefully considered which one to order. It was tough, but we finally decided. They arrived today.


Joseph couldn't wait to start building the Japanese house. Matthew took his upstairs and, with a little help, built the pyramid on the bedroom floor.

These blocks are lots of fun! Thank you.

We can't wait to see you this summer.

Love,

Joseph and Matthew

Wednesday, March 10, 2010

Animal Crackers


Animal Crackers
by Christopher Morley

Animal crackers and cocoa to drink --
That is the finest of suppers I think;
When I'm grown up and can have what I please
I think I shall always insist upon these.


What do YOU choose when you're offered a treat?
When Mother says, "What would you like best to eat?"
Is it waffles and syrup, or cinnamon toast?
It's cocoa and animals that I love most!


The kitchen's the coziest place that I know;
The kettle is singing, the stove is aglow,
And there in the twilight, how jolly to see
The cocoa and animals waiting for me.


Daddy and Mother dine later in state,
With Mary to cook for them, Susan to wait;
But they don't have nearly as much fun as I
Who eat in the kitchen with Nurse standing by;



And Daddy once said, he would like to be me
Having cocoa and animals once more for tea!

Thank you, Tara. Or in Meghan language: "Yanks." :)



Wednesday, January 6, 2010

Thanks


for the new jumper outfit, Nana.


Love you,
Meghan

Tuesday, April 28, 2009

Saint Catherine of Siena


How to Do the Will of the Father

I don't see how you can have this sort of strength, a strength whose source is the gentle mother charity, unless you keep the eye of self-knowledge open always. Self-knowledge is the dwelling in which we discover our own lowliness, and this makes us humble. There we find the knowledge of God's goodness too, and in this light a warmth, a fire of love, is born in us--so gently that all bitterness becomes sweet, everything weak grows strong, and all the ice of selfish love melts away. Then we no longer love ourselves selfishly, but for God. And more, we pour out a river of tears and spread our loving desires out over all our sisters and brothers, loving them with a pure love, without self-interest. And we love God for God's sake, because he is supreme eternal Goodness, worthy of being loved...Let's not put off any longer our move into this holy dwelling of self-knowledge.
(Magnificat "Meditation of the Day" April 29, 2009)


Happy name day to two of my favorite Katherines: Mom and Katie!


Thursday, March 19, 2009

In Memoriam

Today is the 6th anniversary of John's dad's death. We remember him in our prayers today. I'm planning to do some reminiscing with the kids: telling a few stories and looking at old photos. We don't have a Mass on base today, but there are stations of the cross tonight, so we'll offer them for the repose of his soul.

We still miss you, Dad! Please pray for us!

Wednesday, October 29, 2008

An open letter to family and friends about the election

Dear family and friends,

This got to be very long; I apologize in advance for that. I wanted to quote directly from the guidance I sought in addition to providing links in case anyone was interested. If it's too long, skip the quotes, or skip the whole thing. My purpose isn't to change your mind, it's to help you understand mine.

Politically, I have been a declared Independent for about 10 years now, and it seems more and more difficult in each election for me to find a candidate who meets all my requirements as a Catholic. But our ballots arrived in the mail last week, and it's time to decide. As a lifelong Catholic, I have found that when I have made good decisions, i.e., decisions that brought long-term positive results, they are the ones in which I have allowed my faith to inform the decision, whether it be a choice of entertainment or lifestyle or really, anything. For this reason, I decided it was important to go back and read and try to understand Church teaching on voting before deciding upon a candidate. I wanted my decision to be informed by my faith. So I took a look at the U.S. Bishops statement, “Forming Consciences for Faithful Citizenship.” (You can read/download it in PDF format from http://www.faithfulcitizenship.org/ )

The bishops state in paragraph 21 and following, “21. Aided by the virtue of prudence in the exercise of well-formed consciences, Catholics are called to make practical judgments regarding good and evil choices in the political arena.

22. There are some things we must never do, as individuals or as a society, because they are always incompatible with love of God and neighbor. Such actions are so deeply flawed that they are always opposed to the authentic good of persons. These are called “intrinsically evil” actions. They must always be rejected and opposed and must never be supported or condoned. A prime example is the intentional taking of innocent human life, as in abortion and euthanasia. In our nation, “abortion and euthanasia have become preeminent threats to human dignity because they directly attack life itself, the most fundamental human good and the condition for all others” (Living the Gospel of Life, no. 5). It is a mistake with grave moral consequences to treat the destruction of innocent human life merely as a matter of individual choice. A legal system that violates the basic right to life on the grounds of choice is fundamentally flawed.

23. Similarly, direct threats to the sanctity and dignity of human life, such as human cloning and destructive research on human embryos, are also intrinsically evil. These must always be opposed. Other direct assaults on innocent human life and violations of human dignity, such as genocide, torture, racism, and the targeting of noncombatants in acts of terror or war, can never be justified."

Okay, I would say most Americans agree that actions that harm human life are wrong. So what does that mean for a Catholic who is voting or weighing the positions of the various candidates? The bishops continue:

"26. Pope John Paul II explained the importance of being true to fundamental Church teachings:

Above all, the common outcry, which is justly made on behalf of human rights—for example, the right to health, to home, to work, to family, to culture—is false and illusory if the right to life, the most basic and fundamental right and the condition for all other personal rights, is not defended with maximum determination. (Christifideles Laici, no. 38)"

So in terms of voting, how must I defend life with maximum determination? Then-Cardinal Ratzinger dealt with this question in 2004, “A Catholic would be guilty of formal cooperation in evil, and so unworthy to present himself for Holy Communion, if he were to deliberately vote for a candidate precisely because of the candidate’s permissive stand on abortion and/or euthanasia. When a Catholic does not share a candidate’s stand in favor of abortion and/or euthanasia, but votes for that candidate for other reasons, it is considered remote material cooperation, which can be permitted in the presence of proportionate reasons.” (http://www.priestsforlife.org/magisterium/bishops/04-7ratzingerommunion.htm )

I wouldn’t vote for either candidate because I agreed with his position supporting a grave evil, so the question then becomes, what is a proportionate reason? A proportionate reason could be preventing something that is an equally grave evil.

In considering the two major party candidates, I have to then look at their stands on the other issues that the Bishops have identified, what I think of as “threshold issues,” meaning that the candidate must not support these or s/he doesn’t get in the door. These are the grave evils: promoting public policies that support abortion, euthanasia, embryonic stem cell research, human cloning, torture, terrorism, repression of religious liberty, or racial discrimination (Faithful Citizenship, paragraph 23). I think I’m summarizing correctly to say that these are all issues that go to the dignity of the human person, and attacks on that dignity are grave evils.

There are many other important issues that are often pointed out, which the bishops state are linked as life issues (paragraph 25), such as healthcare, education, and poverty abatement, but, according to the bishops, these follow from the right to life, they do not supersede it. In fact, when I think about it, they are meaningless unless a person has life in the first place. So, a candidate must cross the “intrinsic evil” threshold before I can look at those issues, although I am obligated to consider them, as well. And I guess that’s where it gets tricky.

More from Faithful Citizenship:

"27. Two temptations in public life can distort the Church’s defense of human life and dignity:

28. The first is a moral equivalence that makes no ethical distinctions between different kinds of issues involving human life and dignity. The direct and intentional destruction of innocent human life from the moment of conception until natural death is always wrong and is not just one issue among many. It must always be opposed.

29. The second is the misuse of these necessary moral distinctions as a way of dismissing or ignoring other serious threats to human life and dignity. Racism and other unjust discrimination, the use of the death penalty, resorting to unjust war, the use of torture, war crimes, the failure to respond to those who are suffering from hunger or a lack of health care, or an unjust immigration policy are all serious moral issues that challenge our consciences and require us to act. These are not optional concerns which can be dismissed. Catholics are urged to seriously consider Church teaching on these issues."

So, I have to compare the major candidates on all of these issues, Obama supports abortion (and infanticide as I would define it “killing an infant,” based on his vote in Illinois against the Born Alive Infants Protection Act http://www.factcheck.org/elections-2008/obama_and_infanticide.html ), but not torture. He is not opposed to embryonic stem cell research or human cloning. But he is concerned about reducing poverty and hunger and determined to end the Iraq war.

McCain opposes abortion, supports embryonic stem cell research but not cloning and although he says he does not support torture, based on some of his other statements about the war and current policies, I’m not sure I believe him, so possibly (probably?) also torture (this is a fine point because I define torture differently than the Bush Administration's defenders interpret US law as defining torture). McCain's campaign information says he also wants to end the war, but his timetable is different from Obama’s.

(NB: The bishops discuss their position on the war in paragraphs 67 and 68 of Faithful Citizenship:

(the pertinent part)
"The war in Iraq confronts us with urgent moral choices. We support a “responsible transition” that ends the war in a way that recognizes the continuing threat of fanatical extremism and global terror, minimizes the loss of life, and addresses the humanitarian crisis in Iraq, the refugee crisis in the region, and the need to protect human rights, especially religious freedom. This transition should reallocate resources from war to the urgent needs of the poor."

If what I read last week in Stars and Stripes, the military newspaper, was correct, this sort of "responsible transition" is already in the works. The reality is that the withdrawal can only happen so fast. The UN deadline for U.S. withdrawal from Iraq is already set, and the agreements on how that will be done have already begun to be drafted. In fact, the initial proposal was presented by the Iraqi government to the U.S. Dept. of State a week or two ago. The withdrawal will most likely happen on the UN timetable without regard for which candidate is sitting in the oval office at that time.

Would I like it to happen sooner? Heck yes! I would love for all the missing dads and moms from this base to get home tomorrow and be with their kids for Halloween, Thanksgiving, and Christmas. I would love to have our pastor back from "downrange" as they call it, so we could have Mass on base here again. But do I want to make the mess we have made of Iraq even worse by pulling troops out without appropriate measures in place to keep the peace there? No. From a Christian standpoint, that would bring much greater harm to the people of Iraq than we already have brought. Not to mention failing to protect the remnant of the Iraqi Christian community that is still hanging on there, but which will be demolished if protections are not put in place for them.

From what I have learned of them, both candidates support some forms of intrinsic evil. I can’t really vote for either one without needing to consider the ‘proportionate reasons’ guidance Cardinal Ratzinger provides above. If I must vote for one, whom do I choose? It’s hard to balance these horrors. Both candidates support embryonic stem cell research, so there's no difference between them there. (Correction 10/30/08 (thank you, Dan): There is a nuance here that I missed. Obama supports the creation of new humans for the purposes of research while McCain supports only the use of frozen humans who would otherwise remain frozen or be discarded. McCain's position still calls for the abuse of human persons, but would result in fewer lives lost.)

The torture of prisoners against whom charges have not even been formally brought is unconscionable. It is conduct that is a disgrace to our nation and to humanity. But so is abortion. And the war is a horrible thing, as well.

So then what? At this point, to try to find some sort of way to determine proportions, I decided to compare the numbers of victims. What I discovered was chilling. Over the past five years, 4,188 American soldiers have died in Iraq (http://www.antiwar.com/casualties/ ). Even that many deaths, even the horrors of Guantanamo, are not as horrific as the abortion deaths of 45 million American children over the past 35 years since Roe was decided (http://www.cdc.gov/mmwr/preview/mmwrhtml/ss5309a1.htm#fig1 ). (Some accounts say 48 million children in the US alone—and scheduled to pass 50 million before the end of this year http://www.nrlc.org/Factsheets/FS03_AbortionintheUS.pdf ).

45-48 million. Innocent infants. I can hardly think of it. I can hardly comprehend the number.

So there it is.

The objection often raised, that McCain may not do anything to overturn Roe, is well taken. He can’t; not directly anyway. It’s a judicial matter and he is running for an executive office. He could appoint pro-life judges, but he might not. The reality is that judicial appointments are a might, not a will—complete speculation about what the president and the judge may or may not do. In any case, overturning Roe doesn’t really end abortion in the US anyway. It simply puts the decision-making back in the hands of the individual states, many of which have laws allowing abortion that would go back into effect immediately. So at best, McCain may (indirectly) return the abortion decision to the States. At worst, he may leave things as they are.

But last summer at a Planned Parenthood fundraiser, Obama said that one of his first acts in office would be to sign the Freedom of Choice Act as soon as congress sends it to him http://www.nrlc.org/FOCA/index.html (the speech is also on YouTube), a bill which would strike down all governmental limits on abortion throughout the country. Every state law: from limits on partial birth abortion, to requirements that licensed physicians perform abortions, to fully informed consent, to parental notice laws, would be overcome by this act that would allow all abortions in all trimesters for any reason as a federal requirement. Obama has plainly stated that he intends to ensure that my tax dollars would be paying for even more abortions than they already are. He intends to expand the evil. That, to me, is far more grievous than keeping the status quo.

So now I have 45 million murdered unborn infants and one candidate who stated a clear intent to block legitimate limits on abortion approved by state legislatures. At this point, I’m not sure what could possibly be worse. All the wars in the past two centuries haven’t killed this many people. Nothing ever has. There really is nothing proportional to this. Obama has failed the ‘proportionate reasons’ test.

Therefore, I cannot in good conscience vote for Obama. I wish there were a viable 3rd party candidate who came at all of these issues from a Catholic standpoint rather than a purely Democratic or Republican one. That is really the only way I’m ever going to be able to vote freely and happily for someone. But I know from what our parents taught us, and from what the Bishops’ tell me, that “participation in political life [is] a moral obligation.” (Faithful Citizenship, para. 13) So I have to vote for someone.

And the bishops instruct me that I am not a “single issue voter” if I follow their guidance (“42. As Catholics we are not single-issue voters. A candidate’s position on a single issue is not sufficient to guarantee a voter’s support. Yet a candidate’s position on a single issue that involves an intrinsic evil, such as support for legal abortion or the promotion of racism, may legitimately lead a voter to disqualify a candidate from receiving support.”) (Faithful Citizenship)

And they remind me of my duty: “89. As Catholics, we are led to raise questions for political life other than “Are you better off than you were two or four years ago?” Our focus is not on party affiliation, ideology, economics, or even competence and capacity to perform duties, as important as such issues are. Rather, we focus on what protects or threatens human life and dignity.” (Faithful Citizenship)

When I stand before God and He asks me whether I did all I could to protect "these least ones" I want to tell him truthfully that I did. That's why I must vote against the candidate who would expand the evil of abortion. I must vote for life.

With love,
Judy

Monday, August 18, 2008

Happy Birthday...


to my mom!!

Thank you for all your love and support and advice and recipes and especially for all the listening you do during long-distance phone conversations. I love you.

May God grant you many years,

With much love from all of us.

Sunday, August 17, 2008

Happy Birthday...


to John's mom.

We wish you a wonderful day. May God grant you many years.

With much love from all of us--and real photos on the way to you in the mail ;-)

Friday, July 11, 2008

Thanks for a great visit!

What a wonderful visit we had with Mom and Dad! It meant a great deal to us to have them here for Meghan's baptism and Patrick's Eagle Court of Honor. And it was just plain nice to have a chance to reconnect with them. Even though telephone and internet communication are great blessings, they cannot completely replace the joy of being in the presence of those whom we love.

Mom was amazing, as usual. While still jet-lagged, she baked a brown sugar pound cake for Meghan's baptism party and took care of many other details for both of the parties we had the first weekend they were here. And then she and Dad did most of the washing up of pans and serving trays that had to be returned to the club the morning after the court of honor. I know we would not have had such low stress levels (or gotten to bed before one a.m.) if they hadn't been here to help.

Besides all that, Mom finished an embroidery project that has been waiting to be done since before Matthew was born. Our shower curtain looks so much prettier now, thanks to her. :-)

And Dad was great with all of the kids, but especially Matthew, who latched onto Papapa almost as soon as he arrived and kept him very busy reading stories, playing puppets and trains, and tossing the ball outside. Besides that, Dad brought us pictures on CD of family events. It was so much fun to see all the cousins, aunts and uncles.

We had been missing our annual summer trip home very much, and Mom and Dad brought us a bit of home. It was hard to let them go on Monday, but we know our cousins are happy to have them back again, and they must be happy to be back in their own bed--if they've recovered enough from the jet lag to notice where they are ;-).

Monday, June 23, 2008

Preparations

We are preparing for visitors. Hooray! My parents are coming to visit and will arrive on Thursday evening. We hope to show them around the Misawa area, take them to a Japanese baseball game, and go on a short pilgrimage to Akita.

We are preparing for a baptism. Hooray! On Sunday, Margaret becomes a member of God's family in the Catholic church.

We are preparing for an Eagle Scout Court of Honor. Hooray! Patrick will finally be recognized for his hard work in earning Eagle. It's been so long that he has almost earned his first palm. He could be presented with both at the ceremony on Monday.

Posting may be slim for a week or so while we enjoy our visit with Mom and Dad. I can't wait to finish all the preparation and start the celebration.

Sunday, June 15, 2008

Happy Father's Day

To my Dad and to John and all my brothers and brothers-in-law whose children bring such joy to our family. May God continue to bless all of you with good health, wisdom, and understanding.

To Dad, especially, thank you for your love and support throughout my life. I love you!

Here's a prayer for all of you from the back of the holy card distributed at Mass this morning.

Father's Prayer

Most loving Father, you are the
perfect example of fatherhood.
Through the intercession of St.
Joseph, patron of fathers, teach me
what to give and what to withhold.
Show me when to reprove and when
to praise. Make me gentle and
considerate, yet firm and watchful.
Keep me from weak indulgence and
from great severity. Give me the
courage to be disliked sometimes by
my children when I must do
necessary things which are
displeasing in their eyes. Give me the
imagination to enter into their world in
order to understand and guide them.
Give me all the virtues I need to lead
them by word and example in the
path of righteousness. Amen.

Monday, April 28, 2008

Saint Catherine of Siena

Happy name day to Katie and Mom!



What heart will be so hard and stubborn as not to be moved at the sight of such infinite love and the great dignity we have been given--and not because God owed it to us, but by his grace? None of us could look at this and contemplate it without transcending all , all our hardness and foolishness dissolved.

When we see and know our own non-being and God's goodness to us in giving us being and every grace that is added onto being, we will receive the most perfect light and knowledge of ourselves.

Let your heart and soul be set afire in Christ gentle Jesus, with love and longing to reciprocate such love, to give him life for life. He gave his life for you: decide now to give your life for him, b lood for b lood...
-Saint Catherine of Siena (click on her name to read more about her life)
(Magnificat, Vol. 10, No. 2, "Meditation of the Day", April 29, 2008)


Update: Katie asked me to share this quote with you, too.

"I am who am; you are she who is not."
-God to St. Catherine of Siena (Magnificat, Vol. 10, No. 2, "Morning Prayer" quotation before Psalm 139, April 29, 2008)

Thursday, April 24, 2008

Happy Birthday

to my Dad!!



Thank you for all you have done to care for, educate, and support us all our lives.

May St. Joseph, head of the Holy Family, always bless and protect you.

We can't wait to see you here in Japan in a couple of months!

With all our love,
Judy, John, Tommy, Patrick, Katie, Joseph, Matthew, and Baby

Friday, February 29, 2008

Thank you Grandma, Grandmom and Papapa

Matthew looks so cute in the outfits you gave him for Christmas. I just had to share some photos:



Thanks for the cool shirts and khakis, Grandma!










Thanks for the cool jacket and pants, Grandmom and Papapa!

Love you ALL!!

Sunday, August 26, 2007

More cousins

Here are some more photos of our summer fun, this time from Massachusetts.













Monday, August 20, 2007

Cousins

When we unpacked after our family rendezvous, we found a belt that belonged to a cousin. It got me thinking about this summer. What a gift the three weeks at Mom and Dad's were! The first week was a bit sticky as everyone tried to figure out how six kids and three parents and two grandparents would manage to live in one house without driving each other crazy. Beth and I were too hard on Mom about healthy eating (sorry again, Mom), and the kids were so excited to see each other that they went a little crazy.


Fourth of July

But as the excitement and newness wore off, something amazing happened. Somewhere amid the lightning bug catching, frozen yogurt eating, bike riding, farmers' marketing, swimming, field tripping, and storytelling, bonds of true friendship solidified.


Frozen custard

On one of our last evenings together, Beth and I were standing together near our toddlers in the baby pool and looking over at the big pool where the older kids were jumping off the diving board into the deep end. They were having a marvelous time, each acting according to his or her comfort level. The Josephs were hanging out on the side of the pool. Katie was diving--her first time, and Ben was gleefully jumping off the board.

Beth said, "I think we will always look back on this as a golden summer."

She's right. That evening is one of the many moments from our visit that I want to hold forever in my heart.

Like the belt mixed into Joseph's suitcase, our lives and hearts were mixed together during those three weeks. The belt has been returned to its proper home, but I pray that our hearts will remain entangled forever.

cousins=friends

Thank you to t for the photos.

Prayer request

My sister is in the midst of a monumental examination that she must pass in order to continue with her doctoral studies in Medieval literature.

She is a brilliant young woman as well as a loving wife and mother. She has been a great sounding board for me for educational ideas, especially in my navigation from traditional preschool toward Montessori in our home. And she is a wonderful little sister.

Please pray with us that Beth passes her exam.

Blessed Julian of Norwich, pray for her!

Friday, August 17, 2007

Happy Birthday


to my mom!


We hope you have a happy day today.


With our love and prayers.

Happy Birthday


to John's mom!

We hope you have a great day.

With our love and prayers.